There is no doubt motherhood is a hard job. No matter what acronym you have, SAHM (Stay At Home Mom), WAHM (Work At Home Mom), WOHM (Work Outside the Home Mom) or INMNOM (In Need of a Mom’s Night Out Mom) no doubt your job is hard!
The sleepless nights, the pacing the floor, the whining,
the fighting, never ending meal times and bedtime routines. Keeping their
little bellies full, their clothes on their backs and their busy minds full of
wonder and curiosity is enough to wear out even the most energetic moms among
us.
The day to day, nitty gritty parts of motherhood are
exhausting. But that is not what keeps us up at night when our minds wander and
refuse to come back to bed where our bodies restlessly toss and turn.
That is not why a mother waits up for her teenage son to come home on a Saturday night despite being awake for more than 15 hours. That is not why a mother of a toddler spends 4 hours researching online and another hour discussing with her doctor about whether or not her toddler needs vitamin supplements.
That is not why a mother waits up for her teenage son to come home on a Saturday night despite being awake for more than 15 hours. That is not why a mother of a toddler spends 4 hours researching online and another hour discussing with her doctor about whether or not her toddler needs vitamin supplements.
It is the uncertainty.
Uncertainty about the parenting choices we make, uncertainty
about the kind of job we are doing at being mothers, uncertainty about our
children’s futures, uncertainty about motherhood.
There is just so much that we worry about. “Did I breastfeed
enough? Is it okay that I never breastfed? Which formula should I use? Am I
harming my baby by giving him a pacifier, by not giving him one? Did she have
enough tummy time? Are her milestones on track?”
“What if I am somehow irreversibly harming my baby for life
because I did or didn’t do X, Y and Z???”
“Am I disciplining them right? Is it okay that I lose my
shit and yell and scream once in a while? Is it okay that some days I feel like
I just can’t handle it all? If I go back to work, will they resent me for not
being home with them? If I stay at home, will I ruin them because I don’t have
circle time in the living room every day?”
“Are they getting enough social interaction? Do they get
enough time to play alone? Do they get enough time outside? Did I make the
right choice for their education? Is this just a phase, or something more?”
The list of crap we moms worry about goes on and on and on.
It doesn’t help that every time we turn on a computer or TV, we are inundated
by studies and opinions by doctors and psychologists all about the one topic we
can’t seem to get enough of: Parenting.
One day we read that if we don’t want to screw up our kids
we need to do this, the next day we read no, we need to do that. It is enough
to make a mom want to rip her hair out and scream at the screen, “What the Hell
is it that I am supposed to do?!”
Will we always know the right thing to do? No. Will we
always worry if we are doing right by our kids? Probably. I think, though, that
the uncertainty is what makes us good mothers. It is the uncertainty that makes
us try to do better when we can. And the reason the uncertainty is there is
simple. Love.
Love is an unmoving rock amongst the rough seas of
uncertainty and worry. We love our kids so much it hurts. We love our kids so
much we worry if we can be certain that we are doing a good enough job being a
mom.
Let me ask you this. Are your kids basic needs met, food,
clothing, shelter?
Do your kids know just how much you freaking love them?
Then let me tell you this, Mama. You are doing a good enough
job. I am certain of it.
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