Sunday, December 13, 2015

I'm just a mom

I keep thinking of the Syrian refugees. The images of the children haunt me. The dead little boy who washed up on the shore like a lost message in a bottle haunts me.

Wondering, what if it were me, fleeing my home with my three kids, haunts me.
My biggest inconvenience right now is what to do with all the multiple coats, snow pants, hats and mittens my kids have for the winter. They all have more than one coat.

What if we had none?

I feel like a selfish asshole. I have so much, yet so often I trick myself into thinking I'm missing out.
If only we had more room for all our stuff, I think.

Meanwhile, a little boy sleeps outside, scared and with next to nothing.
So what is there for me to do?

I'm just a mom.

I don't know how to solve world diplomatic problems.
Moms help other moms though.
I'm just a mom, but I can help another mom.

I first heard about Carry the future on It's a nonprofit that hands out baby carriers to refugees with young children.

I thought of my ergo. My prized possession.

Ergo is the brand name of a baby carrier. My husband thought the idea of spending over $100 on a baby carrier was ridiculous. But I want one! They are so nice! I protested. It's like wearing a backpack, instead of carrying your kid on your hip.

I scoured eBay and Craigslist til I finally found one for $50.
I loved it. My babies loved riding in it. But at 7, 4 & 2, they're not babies anymore. My 2 year old could still go in it, but she doesn't have much desire to do so, she'd rather walk.

I have gotten rid of most of my baby stuff, the swing, bouncy seat, high chair, etc. but not my ergo.

Maybe I still might use it for the 2 year old, I justified. Except I don't use it at all anymore. I think I just don't want to let go of my babies.

It's time to give the ergo a new home. A half a world away. Where it will get put to much better use than sitting abandoned in the back of my van, just in case.
A mother or father can use it on their journey, carrying their children to a new life.

Me sending my baby carrier to refugees doesn't solve the crisis, it doesn't offer a global solution.

But it offers hope for someone. It eases the load of at least one parent.
Thanks for the memories ergo, safe travels with your new baby. 

Do you have a baby carrier you'd like to donate to Carry the future? Check out their facebook page for more information! You can also make monetary donations or purchase a carrier on Amazon for the organization. Here is the address I got directly from their Facebook post-

Q: Where should I send it to?
A: Please mail your carrier to:
Carry The Future
121 W. Lexington Drive Suite L106D
Glendale, CA 91203

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  1. I think you touch on what many feel. We have so much and others have so little. Like many, I don't know what to do except give, like you're doing. I don't have baby carriers anymore, but will look them up for a donation.

  2. Thanks for reading! I'm so glad you're able to help as well, I really think every little bit is better than nothing.

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