Tuesday, January 28, 2020

Roller Coaster

That moment when you are at the top of the roller coaster and there's that little pause right before you take the first big plunge down the tallest hill. That's what being a parent to an almost 12 year old feels like.

As a parent you go back and forth between thoughts like, "This is going to be so fun!" and also "Nope, don't like this. I changed my mind. I want to get off this ride!"

There's nothing that can truly prepare you for the twists and turns ahead. You can read about it or listen to what friends thought about it when they were on it but that's not the same as actually riding the ride. Teetering at the tippy top is where you really get an idea of what is coming.

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Twelve years sounds like a long time... unless you're a parent.

There were certainly days that dragged on and on. Where it seemed like the click, click, click of the roller coaster car ascending to the top would take forever. It felt like the diapers would never end and then one day they did. It felt like the butt wiping would never end and then it did. It felt like the having to hold their hands in parking lots would never end and then it did. It felt like they would never learn to do anything for themselves and then one day, they are a capable human.

There is a shock to it all. It takes your breath away to know that your child is slowly turning into an adult.

They are right alongside you. Learning to navigate the ups and downs, the changing body, the hormones and the higher expectations and bigger responsibilities. Along with being able to do bigger and way cooler stuff then when they were in diapers.

What else can a parent do but offer to hold their hand if they get scared but at the same time tell them to throw their arms up and enjoy the ride?

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